Are you tired of making resolutions that are difficult to stick to? According to statisticbrain.com, 45% of Americans usually make New Year’s Resolutions, yet only 8% of those people are successful. The top goals include losing weight, getting organized and being more responsible with finances. If these sound familiar to you, you are not alone. Most of us (including me) have set goals that are difficult to stick to, unrealistic, or too vague. Instead of feeling successful, we may find ourselves feeling discouraged, disappointed and like we’ve failed. Instead of following your old pattern, consider this: happy people tend to go out and get their goals accomplished more than unhappy people (according to the research presented in Inside the Mind of Winners). With this in mind, consider what you could achieve if you improved your emotional health this year? Below are some tips to help you boost mood for a happier and healthier 2015. Cheers!
1. Practice vulnerability to create more joy. Push your edge of what you are comfortable with. Maybe this means opening up in ways you haven’t, asking for what you need or sharing something personal. Maybe this means trying something new that makes you feel anxious or uncomfortable. When we are vulnerable, we are also courageous. According to Brene Brown, “It’s hard to feel joy because we are so keenly aware that it’s fleeting. When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, we lose the courage to be joyful.”
2. Allow for rest and play. In this fast paced world we live in, there is a tendency to believe that rest and play are things we do when we have extra time. Unfortunately, not getting enough of these two essential things lead to burn-out, irritability, and stress. Practice creating time for these things in your schedule by setting good boundaries (see #3).
3. Practice saying “no.” This is one of the hardest things to do, especially when we are worried about disappointing someone else. But learning how to say “no” when you need to is invaluable, because it forces us to do what we need to for our own well-being.
4. Practice self-compassion. How often do you practice self-forgiveness and internal kindness? How often do you treat yourself like others treat you? We are often our own worst critics, blaming and shaming our way through life. Practice treating yourself like a loved one would treat you.
5. Harness your creativity. According to PBS, creativity and flow are linked to better job satisfaction, higher-quality leisure time, more positive emotions, and greater overall well-being and happiness. The good news is, everyone is creative—and everyone can nurture their creative side,
6. Live in the present. Practice being in the moment rather that letting your thoughts take to you what happened in the past or what with happen in the future.
7. Avoid judging your emotions. Remember, emotions are just information. It may help to take a curious stance with your emotions instead of trying to push them away. Practice accepting the way you feel in the moment